The saying “opposites Attract” is a popular thing people say when they’re talking about love. However, we’re here to burst your bubble. Researchers found out that it might not be the case after all. Keep on reading to discover more about it, and who knows, maybe you’ll find some answers to why some relationships in the past haven’t worked out for you!
Scientists found that people love others who are similar to themselves
Each human is unique, even twins! However, some people feel similar about certain things or topics. Scientists have discovered that people who date others with similar traits, values, and lifestyles are more likely to stick together. In 2023, the results of a study led by Tanya Horwitz were published in a scientific journal called Nature Human Behavior. The study concluded that people often choose partners who have traits that have a positive correlation. For example, couples would mostly align on things like religion, politics, and health habits such as working out!
However, this does not mean that everything has to match perfectly; for example, there are differences in people and how assertive they can be in public. Some choose to take a more passive role while their partner might take a more active approach in handling situations. In this case, they would complement each other because if you have 2 people who are equally assertive, they might end up in more fights!
Compatibility is The Key To a Long-Lasting Relationship!
When the “love” chemistry has fizzled out and when you go past the honeymoon phase, your brain will be able to think straight again. The things that your hormones could override before are now back under control. During this time, you’ll learn more about your partner and what you really think about them.
Luckily, this does not mean that it will be the end of your relationship. It will just let you focus on other things than happy feelings when you’re with the person. Over time, partners also tend to grow more similar through a phenomenon called convergence, as shared experiences and habits strengthen their bond and love for each other. Interestingly, lasting attraction often depends less on objective similarity and more on whether partners feel they are alike.
So, if you’re looking for the secret formula to a long-lasting relationship, you should look for a partner who is compatible with you. This goes for both real compatibility and perceived compatibility.
