Feeling insecure about your body isn’t rare—but when it comes to genitals, the numbers are higher than you might expect. Studies show that around 30% of women and 38% of men are dissatisfied with their own anatomy. For women, it’s often about labia size or shape. For men, penis length tends to be the big concern. In extreme cases, people even consider or undergo cosmetic surgery to “fix” something that’s usually completely normal. So where does this insecurity come from? Many people assume porn is to blame. But new research says otherwise.
The Real Source of Genital Anxiety Isn’t Porn
Despite all the glossy, airbrushed adult content out there, a massive international study found that porn isn’t the main driver of genital insecurities. In fact, the people most impacted by insecurity tend to be those who feel judged by real-life partners, peers, or social media—not those who watch adult films.
The study revealed that personal experiences—especially in intimate relationships—play a much stronger role in shaping how we see our own bodies. Social pressure, subtle comments, or early sexual encounters can leave a lasting impression. And when society emphasizes a narrow “ideal,” it’s easy to internalize those standards, even when they’re unrealistic.
Want More Body Confidence? Have More Sex!
Interestingly, the more sexual experience people have with partners, the less insecure they tend to be. It turns out that being desired by someone in real life can be a powerful antidote to body anxiety. Here’s what tends to help people feel better:
- Positive feedback from partners
- Normalizing conversations with friends
- Seeing a variety of real bodies in non-sexual settings (like locker rooms or online forums)
- Limiting time on filtered, idealized content
Confidence doesn’t come from matching a porn star’s look—it comes from connection, acceptance, and realizing that “normal” looks different for everyone. Most genitals are absolutely average, and that’s a good thing. What actually matters? Comfort, trust, and showing up without shame.
